A few months ago after a wonderful child free day I had shared with my husband I wrote a post about the importance of making time for your marriage.
I had promised myself that I would set time aside for us both to have a date night once a month. This hasn’t really taken off and it is all down to me and the effort and guilt it takes to leave the house when you have little ones.
Hubby had put his foot down this week and booked cinema tickets so I simply couldn’t wriggle out of it!
So the military operation to leave the house alone begins. They all need to be rounded up from the different schools, nurseries and clubs they are all at on a Friday afternoon. Of course to make things awkward they are all late just to mess my limited time frame up a bit more.
Next up is feeding time at the zoo, a seemingly mess free oven dinner is prepared but they still manage to cover every surface of the entire kitchen which then takes hours to clean up before sticking them all in the bath to get cleaned up before the baby sitter arrives.
Babies cleaned and in their PJs I now try to get myself looking vaigly presentable for the general public when I can hear a huge gush of water! Yes number three has managed to pull the basin from the wall in the bathroom causing a flood all over my just cleaned kitchen!
More time was spent cleaning up another disaster and I still had the youngest who is still breastfed fed and settled. I finally sit down hair half done and jeans still drying on the radiator when my husband walks through the door all fresh and ready as he is able to get ready child free at work glaring at me for not being ready.
I eventually manage to get out the door with the guilt of leaving a crying baby, shouting at my husband if he won’t settle I’m coming straight home and we are being completly selfish for leaving a crying a baby just to satisfy our own needs.
A frosty drive into town was then eased by a video sent from the babysitter of some more than happy children snuggled on the sofa.
A couple of glasses of wine in, an uninterrupted conversation and the choice of something else rather than Cebebbies to watch then made the stress and the guilt of the last few hours all worth it.
haha what a vivid description of the reality of motherhood! Loved it! #babybrainmondays
Thank you very much xx
This is such a difficult one and one where I am the same – but as my husband keeps pointing out to me, we need to be us, to be mummy and daddy and stay sane! #twinklytuesday
I know how you feel and I is good once we are out and is worth the effort. It’s just a lot easier for them to leave the house in the first place!! X
The joys of motherhood! We havent done a single datenight since Arj was born – how bad is that? I don’t even know what we’d talk about! haha! Though i’d welcome the silence lol. I really look up to you – 5 kids and you’re breastfeeding. YOU ARE AMAZING! #BabyBrainMonday x
Thank you, I’m at a bit of a cross roads with breastfeeding as this is the longest any of them has fed for!!
I hope you get some baby free time soon although it is so strange when you do get out. We sit staring at each other for a while in a bit of an awkward silence!! X
Aah bless you lovely!! We rarely have date nights ā that said we DO go to Glastonbury every year and leave the kids for 4/5 days!!! So that more than makes up for it!! š Thanks for linking up to #TwinklyTuesday ā much appreciated x
That’s fantastic. I would love to go to Glastonbury but my husband is allergic to mud and rain!! It would be his idea of hell!! Xx
Your post makes me laugh although this is how I feel and I just have one! Glad you had a lovely night out in the end š Polly x
Thanks Polly, I think it’s hard to get out no matter how many children you have really isn’t it? X