Back To School Sleeping Woes

Well we are nearly back into the whole school routine thing and I am finally coming to terms with all my babies being in full time education! We have nailed the homework, have been leaving the house in the mornings with plenty of time to spare, there have been no phone calls for forgotten books and ‘touch wood’ everything seems to be running smoothy…well aside from bedtimes!

The summer holidays made way for long bright evenings and a much more relaxed routine when it came to bedtimes. This was perfect at the time and I loved those few extra hours it gave us all to be out and about or relaxing in the garden; but this has all backfired on me with a certain little boy now that the school term routine is here.

The problems start as soon as dinner is over and the realisation that bedtime isn’t to far away. The tummy aches and headaches appear, the bedtime drink takes an eternity to get finished and then once finally in bed the real issues start.

Frankie gets so worked up about going to bed that the minute I leave the room he got foots it out of bed and is right behind me, refusing to stay in his bed and pleading to come downstairs. At the moment we seem to have two options which is to continually lead him back to his bed until he his finally to worn out to fight it anymore or spent half the evening sitting in his room until he falls asleep.

Both of these options are time consuming and hugely stressful for all of us and its really something we need to get on top of as the lack of sleep is breaking us all.

Below are a few tips that I’m going to be trying out to see if we can finally crack this before I crack myself:

Routine, Routine, Routine – This is one of the things that was always a big priority but over the years and the more children I had the relaxed and calm bedtime routine I once inforced has stacked somewhat and it is all a little manic. A definite routine of bath, book and bed are certainly going to be put in place again.

Security – A know that a big problem from Frankie is the anxiety of being left on his own at bedtime so finding a toy or a blanket to snuggle up to may help to make him feel a little more secure.

Calming Environment – I know for me I get a much better nights sleep when my room is clean and tidy and free from the clutter of the day and I’m sure that for children this is the same. Making their room a calming and inviting place make for a good starting ground for a restful night. Making sure that all the toys are put away and there is a cosy and inviting bed for them to jump into is a must.

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Turn Off Electrics – I definitly fall down when it come to limiting electronics before bedtime and it is actually advised that anything stimulating such as TV, computers and tablets should be turned off an hour before bed.

Choose The Right Foods – Try not to give children any sugary or caffeinated foods before bedtime. They work as a stimulant and can be a good reason as to why they are still bouncing off the walls when you are trying to get them to sleep.

I am really hoping that some of these tips are going to work for us and we all finally get some much needed rest. I would love to know if you have any other top tips to help me out.

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Getting Rid Of Anxieties With ‘The Worry Plaque’ 

Number four started school in September and amazingly he has settled well and has come on absolute leaps and bounds in terms of his learning and behaviour which is something I never expected.

He is however a complex little thing and he is extremely hard to work out. He bottles things up and is a real closed book.

When he is worried or anxious he tends to  lash out and problems are usually masked with aggression.

It is so frustrating and upsetting for all of us when he reacts this way and although it is an outlet for him it never really gets to the crux of the problem.

When we were asked to try out The Worry Plaque from The Irish Fairy Door Company I didn’t really hold out much hope in it working for us.


The plaque is battery operated and can be mounted to the wall. We are yet to find the perfect place for it so it is currently on number four’s chest of drawers.

The idea is that the child places their hand onto the handprint. The handprint appears red whilst they tell the fairies their worries and when it turns green all their worries are taken away by the fairies and the negative energy they create is then turned into good energy to grant lovely new wishes.


Number four is an extremely pessimistic child for someone of the tender age of five but he has been complexly encapsulated with the magic of this and has been a firm believer that all his worries will be safely taken away for him.


I couldn’t be happier with this fabulous idea that is perfect for little ones that find expressing their feelings hard.

Their are also a whole host of short videos online that show the fairies talking about worries such a bullying, falling out with friends, fears of spiders and many more.

A little bit of fairy magic has done the trick for us and I highly recommend giving it a go for yourselves.

*we were given this plaque for the purpose of this review and they are all my own, honest opinions.

Wicked Wednesday:It Wasn’t Me!!

I’ve smugly not linked up to Wicked Wednesday with Brummy Mummy Of 2 for a while now so clearly my children thought they would perform a cracker for me to come back with!!

I was casually tidying the front room when I came across number two’s name graffitied into the sofa!

Upon interrogation when he got home from school we soon realised it was not infect him as he pointed out why would he be as stupid as to write his own name.

Looking into the corner of the room sights were set on number three who after a lot of denial admitted to it being her!  Let’s just say she is firmly in the naughty list!!

  

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Not So Smug Anymore!

  

After a day filled with meltdowns over magazines, tantrums about the wrong colour grapes and cleaning up a pot plant that had been launched across the bathroom I sat back tonight and reflected on all those sideways, judgemental looks I have thrown to other parents over the years.

With my first three I will now openly admit that I was a super smug Mum. They were far from perfect as no child is but with a stern talking to or one of those looks only a Mother could give they would more than normally fall into line and do as they were told.

I would get remarks from people on how polite and well behaved my children were.  There was in fact one occasion when a stranger came over to let me know what a well mannered child number three was.

I would sit at soft play areas and chat with friends while the children all happily played.  We could go to the park and I would know they could wander around happily safe in the knowledge they would never be to far from my side.  A meal out was always a good experience as long as we didn’t drag it out for to long.

I would see a child throwing a tantrum and would throw the mother a judgemental look and wonder why she was allowing this to happen, I would watch programs like Super Nanny and would be astounded as to how people could let their children behave in such a way and then number four came along!

 This little bundle of joy completly turned my world upside down in more ways than one.

I became that mother that got a look as we walked into toddler group, people stop and stare as he screams and hits out in the middle of a shopping centre, I am continually on edge when we are in the playground as I never know what his next move will be.  My home has become a destruction zone of ripped wall paper and discarded toys.

He is the only one that has resorted me to tears, I’ve had so many trips to the health visitor for help I have lost count, I’ve dragged him kicking and screaming from soft play areas with silenced crowds staring at me.

I now wish I could turn the clocks back and offer a sympathetic look or reach out a much needed hand to all those mothers I have judged in the past.  It just goes to show that no matter how you bring your children up and what coping mechanisms you put in place life can always throw you a curve ball that completly messes with all your best laid plans.

His character makes him the little boy he is but boy had he been a challange!
  

Just Me And Baby 

  
You would have thought that by child number four I should be hardened to that ‘first day’.  As today proved I’m clearly not!

It was number four’s first day at nursery and all of those mixed emotions came flooding through just as they had with the others, but with a few more thrown in.

Number four has without doubt been my most challanging child.  He is massively strong willed, extremely boisterous and is hugely outgoing.

This has driven me to the edge over the past three years yet I wouldn’t have him any other way.  I just worry now how his character is going to go down in a nursery environment.  Play areas and toddler groups have always been a challange for us and I would be on guard the whole time.  In a large nursery with lots of children I am worried he will realise he has a bit to much free reign as there are plenty more children that need to have an eye kept on them. 

There is also the worry that I’m not there to watch what he is eating and as he has not reached a level yet where he understands his allergies I am in a real panic that I am going to be getting ‘that’ phone call!

The upside to him getting some much needed structure to his day is that I get to have a few hours on my own with number five.  He is such a placid child that has really been a little pushed into the background being the last in a long line of little ones.  It’s his time now and I am going to make the most of trips to the park, toddler sessions and cuddles on the sofa with my little baby for those precious few hours of the day.

  
  

Wicked Wednesday’s:Cake Review Disaster 

 
If any of you follow my blog you will have probably noticed by now that the majority of parenting fails and kid disasters normally fall at the hands of number four.

He has excelled himself this week by getting hold of the cake I was reviewing for Baker Days and completely defaced it!!  Luckily enough I had managed to get some pictures before the demon child attacked.  
  

Sweet Treat Free House

  

Over the years my stance on feeding my children has changed several times.  With my youngest I found healthy eating a breeze.  She didn’t have any naughty treats at all and was more than happy with her dried fruit and rice cakes up until nursery age as there were no outside influences to open her eyes up to the world of chocolate and all the other goodies that are out there.  As she got older treats were introduced but we’re not an everyday thing.

By the time I got onto baby number three I was aware that sweets were becoming the norm so I went cold turkey on anything artificial.  This continued for a while until I was getting things ready for a party and my eldest said “are we going to have carrot sticks in our party bags?”. 

I then realised that maybe I was being to strict and we all need a treat every now and then.

The problem I am finding as the children are getting older is that a healthy balanced diet is becoming harder to inforce as they have free choice when they are out and about and sugary, artificial foods are creeping back into our everyday life and having a detrimental affect on all their behaviour.

Number four especially reacts badly to colourings and will be bouncing off the walls for hours afterwards.

This weekend I am going to be trawling Pintrest for fun healthy snacks that are going to satisfy the whole family.

With obesity, tooth decay and behavioural problems on the rise it is our job as parents to create a good balance so that a healthy lifestyle is taken into adulthood with them to pass down to the future generation.