Teaching My Children To Make Non-Resolutions

In the past the 1st January has never filled me with hope and longing for the fresh New Year ahead but more of a sinking feeling that so many of those resolutions I had made the year before had not been achieved and probably more accurately been broken within the first week.

It heralds a time when society tells us that we need to compile huge lists of goals and aspirations for the year ahead that whist writing I am already in my head knowing that trying to fulfil all these dreams and wishes within such a short space of time is going to be unrealistically achievable.

I know that for many of you the dawn of a New Year is the perfect start to clean the slate and achieve new goals and I applaued you for this but it is simply something that has never worked for me.

As my children grow the tradition of New Years’s resolutions are obviously something that they have become interested in so this year I have decided to introduce non-resolutions.

Instead of looking back on the past year and highlighting the things we haven’t achieved I will be earging them to highlight the positives, even if they may have seemed insignificant at the time, its all of the little things that go unnoticed I want them to reflect on and celebrate.

Instead of setting goals within an arbitrary time frame I want them to create life goals they can strive towards and achieve when they are good and ready, have hopes and dreams they can fulfil within a time that suits them and most importantly celebrate simply being who they are and be proud of whatever they achieve whenever they choose to do it.

Goals And Aspirations For 2017

A New Year is a chance for a fresh start, a blank page, a time for infinite opportunities.

A lot of people aren’t fond of the idea of New Years resolutions, but for me it gives me focus and something to work towards. If I don’t fulfil them by the end of the year I know that I have tried my hardest to get there.

Here are my goals for this year and I hope that I can fulfil as many as I can:

Educate Myself – I really want to press on with improving my blog this year and to do this I need to learn some new skills.

Photography has become a huge love of mine but I have been completely winging it so I am going to enroll on a photography course to hone my skills.

SEO is something that scares and baffles me in equal measures and is something I am determined to understand and implement this year.

Blog design is something I have no idea how to start with, but I’m going to have a complete rebranding this year and hope to do most of it myself.

A Tidy House, A Tidy Mind – My house has become increasingly cluttered this year with piles in corners and stuff squirrelled away.

This year I want to have a clear home that will hopefully allow me to be more organised in other areas of my life.

Giving Back – The extravagances of Christmas have got me thinking about teaching the children there are people out there that a lot less fortunate and getting them involved in projects that allow us to give a little something back.

Making food bank donations and sponsored fun runs are just a couple of the things I have in mind for us to do.

Play Everyday – After lots of time together and the obligatory Christmas games I have decided to dedicate one night a week to just playing games together as a family.

No screens will be allowed and we can have a few hours together having some good old fashioned fun  as a family, so any board game recommendations would be more than welcome!

Stop Procrastinating – I am terrible at putting things off in favour of doing something more appealing.

This is why I get into a state of panic several times a week when I’ve left posts until the last minute or school projects that that kids need help with.

From now on I will make lists of things they need doing and get them done without the constant distractions I make for myself.

One On One Time – I’ve attended a few events this year that I’ve only taken one of the children to and this one on one time with them had been so good for both of us.

This is going to be a hard one but I’m going to try my hardest to get some time every month on my own with just one child at a time.

Time For Me And My Relationship – Both of these this are always way at the back of the queue when it comes to priorities and every year I promise to put myself and my husband first every now and then and it never happens.

From now on even if it’s just a coffee on my own to be away from the home to collect my own thoughts or a trip to the cinema with my husband it’s going to be one of my top priorities as I’m sure it makes for a happier home for everyone in the long run.

Who knows how many of this goals will be meet and if they are will I keep them up for the entire year.

All I know is I’m going to try my hardest and give my all and I can’t do any better than that!


 

A New Me For Christmas:Week Three

  
Woohoo another 2lb down from last week.  Not really moving as fast as I would like but I know it is better to loss slowly as the weight is then more likely to stay off that way.

I have managed to stick to the healthy eating apart from a couple of little slip ups and have trained four times.

My biggest love is weight training which is a fantastic aid to weight loss.  Many women fear that using weights will leave then big and bulky.  This is not the case, in fact they a great addition to your weight loss program.

Here are some of the benefits:

  • After a weight training session your body continues to burn calories at a higher rate as building muscle increases your metabolism long term.
  • You will tone up without bulking up.  Women simply doing have the ability to gain size like men do.
  • You will create a stronger more functional body that will help you with everyday tasks such as carry the shopping and lifting the children. 
  • Increases your bone density which will help to ward offosteoporosis in years to come.
  • Prevents injuries such a back pain which I know is a big problem with women of childbearing age.
  • Lastly is makes you toned, leaner and fitter which ultimately makes for a healthier and happier you.

So next time you walk past the weight section thinking it is just for men stop and give it a try.

Week Three

Weight 10.2

BMI 23

Body Fat 25

Goals

Lose another 2lb

Try a yoga class to help with my posture

Find a LBD as my incentive to keep trying